Day 95 People and Porn or Sex on Crack

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What I have notice with people who watch a lot of porn is that they are not HERE. I mean when you talk to them, or try to communicate with them, it is like they have this haze in their eyes. They don’t really see you. It is like something is going on in the back of their minds distracting them from being present with you or with something they are doing. It is quite frustrating really. They are living in a fantasy world within their mind and miss out on real communication. Now this can also happen when one is distracted with worry or other issues, but they will usually talk about it. But when one is a porn watcher they really do not want to be disturbed out of their fantasy of picture presentations, and they think or want it to be real life. That is why there is so much divorce over porn use. I also think some feel guilty and thus project there anger towards others because of the conflict that watching porn can cause.

This is one static about Porn:

“At the 2003 meeting of the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, a gathering of the nation’s divorce lawyers, attendees revealed that 58% of their divorces were a result of a spouse looking at excessive amounts of pornography online.”

I never liked Porn, I thought it degrading to both men and women. But there are even consequences for those who don’t watch it. For example I felt judged by others because I did not like it, feeling maybe there is something wrong with me? I became confused and even intimidate by sex because of how it was portrayed in Porn Videos. I know that today many kids are most likely made fun of it they don’t watch it. And people forget or choose not see that Porn is a money making industry, which will prey on anyone no matter who they hurt. They will glorify it to young men and women to make money. Instead of being taught how to really communicate and share intimacy with each other, children are now thinking that Porn is The Norm. They are thinking this is what sex is about. Porn is causing over stimulation resulting in a decrease of fulfillment. Like any addiction, you must have more and more, because your highs are harder to fulfill. 

You must see that these Porn actors are really going through; this is show in a video that was made by 2 Ex porn actors.
Two Ex Porn Stars Uncover the Truth About Porn 

And this is another problem that is happening as the results of Porn.
How Porn is Affecting the Libido of the Male

Porn should be see for what it is, Sex on Crack – It is legally being sold, just like drugs to Kids and Adults and the goal is to get you hooked so they will keep making money from you. What is that saying? Anything for a buck, sorry about your luck.

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Day 94 Bernard Poolman - Living the Golden Rule

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The other day I was searching the internet to find the Jesus passage that says “Do unto other as You would Have done Unto You,” and to my surprise I found out that this is called the Golden Rule or Silver Rules and that most every single religion states this Rule in one way or another! See this link
"THE SERMON ON THE MOUNT" The Golden Rule (Mt 7:12)

Why is this shock to me? Because now in this age we still have more than half the world who is suffering from poverty and or starvation, we still have wars that we say are to defend our freedom, but we know now it is about money/resources and control. We are taught to hate others that are not like us, we are taught to compete for self glorification and reward.
The list goes on how we have not as humans lived this rule.

Bernard lived as and showed us through living action what the Golden Rule means.
But if we take an honest look out into the world – Very few are living it – Not enough to make a difference. Why is that? Why such a simple principle, a simple rule that would make this world a place of support and caring for all life not be lived? This was Bernard’s mission, to find out why we have not changed, why have we not lived this rule that is taught by each religion. And what can we do about it.

If there was ever a man on earth that lived the Principles of the Golden Rule in the flesh it was Bernard Poolman. Do unto another as you would like done unto you. Simple words. We need to eat – thus make sure everyone has food, we need shelter from the elements, thus make sure everyone has a shelter, we need honest education that supports life on earth, thus make sure everyone has accesses to education. We need health education and care, thus make sure everyone has access to this. All of these things we want for ourselves –we must also want for one another. Living Income Guaranteed. He shared all the education and support he could for these thing along with all the investigation as to why we have not lived as this yet and what we can do to change this.

So Bernard then lived another proverb -”Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day, teach a man to fish and you feed him for life.” People who think they did not like Bernard or the Desteni message would say things like – what are you doing to help! Have you feed people with out money? All you are doing is posting stuff; you are not really doing anything about it. Well – then take this into consideration. Give a man a fish and he can eat for the day -Teach a man how to fish and he can eat forever. That is what Bernard did everyday.

Bernard showed Us, opportunities and ways that the world could fish, how we can take care of ourselves by supporting others, nature our planet, because with out consideration for the whole of life, we start to self destruct. –– He researched why have we not changed or evolved yet – why with the Golden Rule taught in every and each religion, we have not evolved to a species that supports life instead of destroying it. This is when he discovered the Mind Consciousness Systems. Now not many wanted to hear this part – because it shows that we have been accepting and allowing ourselves to be brainwashed to live life as self interest instead of common interest to such an extent that we are blinded to see the real truth. We have missed the Golden Rule – which is so simple – why are we not living it? I mean it is so simple – it makes perfect sense – to have a world of joy and peace where we love one another – But we are not doing this – We say, man can not change; this is mans nature to be greedy and seek self rewards no matter what the cost. So we have accepted this as our nature? Why? Because we are stuck in a paradigm belief system that supports separation instead of supporting what is best for all.

Bernard tirelessly spent his days to show us what the Golden Rule means and how we could practically live it as humans in this world. The Desteni group for 6 + years now have been working daily on ways that a new political and governmental foundation can be set up that would follow the Golden Rule Principles. Thus making a place where all can eat and support life. We start with looking at, and investigating practical living ways that we as humanity can do this. It is not about charity – charity only supports for a moment and keeps the enslavement going.

Bernard dedicated his life and walked the Internet to share what it means and what it will take to become and Be the LIVING words – DO UNTO OTHERS AS YOU WOULD LIKE DONE UNTO YOU. It is interesting that this is not taught as primary education. I mean if it were, we would not have the type of leaders that we have now. We would not have the Elite that own 99% of wealth, while others are slaves to support their habit. The short of it is, that we have accepted and allowed ourselves through and as parents to be brainwashed into living as self interest beings instead of common interest beings which we pass on to our children.

It took me 5 years to really even start to grasp what this actually means, the Golden Rule. I have heard it many times; it went in one ear and out the other, as I along with most humans are being programmed to fit into this world of competition to survive. I have Bernard, whom I like to call the Paradigm buster, to thank, who got get me to see this. To see and understand that we must work together as one to create a world that is best for all. To see and face ourselves for what we have been accepting and allowing. To use self forgiveness so we may move forward to create a world free of abuse and live in harmony with life.

People either live directively facing consequence, or they live waiting for things to happen to them before they make decisions. You have to decide who you are in every breath at the cutting edge of time. That determines, through accumulation, who you will be and who you may become. Bernard Poolman.

The shift will happen when WE SHIFT our thinking to first, one of Common Thinking instead of self self-glorification first.

With sincere Thanks and Gratitude to Bernard Poolman for showing us how to Stand Up For and Start to Put into Practical Living the Golden Rule.

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Day 93 God As LIFE

Churches That Abuse (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

I see God as Life – Thus we are given the gift of Life while here – But we are then responsible for the LIFE we Live – God/Life does not punish us – We just reap what we sow or what we accept and allow. Thus when we justify excuses for why there is poverty and abuse in the world – we are accepting and allowing this.

So we as the human species are facing consequences. If our actions were one of caring for all others as yourselves – there would be no abuse or starvation or poverty. Thus when we pray, it is not enough. It is a way to feel release from guilt for a moment or to maybe clear our heads, so we can see what to do – but God can not change things for the better, or the worst, we have to, we have free will. 

That is why there is abuse. Common sense would dictate that if we start to use our free will to create a world that is best for All of life – We would then end abuse and atrocities in this world. I would say God/Life is waiting for us to get it. What is stopping Us, but ourselves. 

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Day 92 Fear of Time = Procrastination

I am sharing my one of my Dip Lite assignments:

I woke up this morning actually dreaming about procrastination - I was trying to understand it and sort it out in my sleep or dream. What I am seeing is that my procrastination is linked to fear of being disappointed, or fear of the struggle to do something. It is interesting because I use to not be like this. I wanted to try and do most anything. But now I have this fear of it. Also what is coming up is time - I think something is going to take too much time to do, I am accepting and allowing myself to fear starting something because I have experienced from the past when I want to do something and then it takes way longer than I thought, and then I worry about other things i have to do - so I fear getting started. For example I wanted to change the oil in the Tractor lawn mower as I am taking care of the property while my landlord is gone. Now changing oil should take 15 min. But because I never changed the oil in this type of machine - I would have to research how - and I did, I had to find the right model and serial numbers - find the website - find instructions which took over and hour - then I had to find the right tools to get the plug out, ect.. So all in all it took about 1 1/2 to change the oil. Not a big deal - but something happened to me that I am just seeing as I get older - I use to like learning something new, and the challenge and wonderment of learning and doing new things, but now I am seeing the challenge as a chore, as something stressful to do, and thus I procrastinate. wow... It is like I have lost my excitement for life. I am becoming rigid, I am seeing moving in life as a chore instead of life itself. Shit! I better snap out of it! I am seeing set backs as accumulated disappointments, which lead me to want to procrastinate instead of being HERE as Life with life, with out judgment.

So within this point I see that I had a definition of time with the starting point of fear - Thus now, to redefine time as direction of life.

I forgive myself that I have been accepting and allowing myself to define the word time within the starting point of fear, instead to live time HERE as the direction of Life.

I forgive myself that I have been accepted and allowing myself to procrastinate because of fear of disappointment.
I forgive myself that I have been accepting and allowing myself to start to live as and believe that doing things are a struggle and a chore because I fear the time it will take to do them.

I forgive myself that I have been accepted and allowing myself to worry about time as a factor to live life!

I forgive myself that I have been accepting and allowing the idea of time/how long something will take and see it as stressful - thus I am relating time to equal stress!

I forgive myself that I have been accepting and allowing myself to see time as stressful. And within this I compromise myself by being in my mind imagining doing something as stressful because of the time it will take, instead to be HERE with Life and not time.

I forgive myself that somewhere along the line I must of heard that there is not enough time and thus I feared the idea of time - to instead of getting things done - I would fear the time - I would fear not getting it done "in time" thus within my mind I would stress about it and I would procrastinate starting something.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear disappointment because in the past something I would do did not work out the first or maybe the second time and that meant some thing’s will take more time, and I would see that as a disappointment because of my idea of time as stressful.. 

I now commit myself to see learn and understand that when I see myself starting to go into stress about doing something or getting something done, I understand that I had defined getting something done with the idea of fear of time. And thus I was living in my mind of fear and imagination of past and worry of the future within self judgment of getting something done, instead to be one, together with what I am doing as a tribute to and as life as to what is best for all as life. Thus I commit myself to change my definition of time as merely direction of and as life, and I commit myself to teach myself to be HERE as Breath as one with Life. 

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